There are two basic values or objectives that all people have
... even if we do not express it explicitly, or even if we are not fully aware of it. These goals are survival and enjoyment. In other words, our two fundamental vital impulses are to stay alive and be happy.
Our general objectives, common to all, are to live our life with the greatest possible enjoyment, given our limitations as human beings, as well as the limitations of the physical and social world.
These are the secondary values or objectives, which can help individuals achieve personal fulfillment:
- Self interest. Every emotionally and psychically healthy and sensible person tends to be fundamentally interested in himself and puts his interests slightly above those of others. Healthy people are positive towards themselves and others. They usually place themselves first, place a few chosen below and the rest of the world not too far behind.
- Self acceptance. Feel comfortable in your own skin, happy and happy just to live, to exist. Do not measure your intrinsic value by your achievements and successes or by what other people can say or think. Choose to accept unconditionally, make assessments of your totality or way of being and try to enjoy what you do instead of proving yourself.
- Social interest. Tendency and desire to live in society, to act in a civic and moral way, respecting the rights of others, helping to improve as far as we can, the society in which we live.
- Flexibility and tolerance. Do not establish rigid and immovable rules and norms for yourself and others. To be open to change, pluralistic in the vision and in the idea that is formed by other people.
- Acceptance of uncertainty in which we humans move, because we live in a world of probabilities and there are no absolute certainties. Even consider fascinating and exciting to live in an uncertain world, always open to surprise.
- Self government. Take control, responsibility and direction of our own lives, without continually demanding or needing the help of others in excess.
- High tolerance to frustration. Being able to accept those things that bother us or that block our goals, as well as having the facility to grant oneself the right to be wrong, that is why they tend to refrain from condemning themselves or condemning others for unacceptable behaviors.
- Be vitally busy in some topic or project of creative, intellectual interest or some kind of important human commitment that makes him feel supportive, useful for others. They enjoy and seek interests that they consider satisfactory in themselves and not as means to achieve other things, such as hobbies, sports, work, intellectual or artistic activity, etc.
- Propensity for reflection calm and ability to feel deeply and to act in a concentrated way, but also to regulate emotions and actions, reflecting on them and assessing their consequences.
- Tendency to assume a certain level of risk, within a limit, without recklessness. Without assuming a certain level of risk, it is impossible to start new stages in life, establish new relationships, start new businesses. Those who, for fear of making mistakes, do not assume certain risks, soon see their personal evolution blocked.
- Realism, live with your feet on the ground, without utopism. The healthy individual is aware that he will never achieve all his desires or manage to avoid all pain. That is why he does not waste time moving in an unrealistic way in search of pleasure, happiness or total perfection, or of the full and complete disappearance of inconveniences, sufferings and discomforts.
- Tendency to dramatize, to remove iron, to look for better alternatives and not to make a problem of everything.
- Empathy or propensity to put oneself in the place of others and see things from their own perspective. Understand that each individual acts moved by their own reasons, experiences, attitudes and beliefs.
- Hedonism, in a broad sense, that leads him to seek happiness and avoid pain, to take advantage of the pleasant moment of the moment enjoying here and now and preparing the gratification and pleasure of the future, because he is not obsessed with immediate gratification because he knows that life It is long and there is tomorrow.
- Accept one's emotional discomfort because it takes over its own existence instead of discharging responsibilities and blaming others or the social or vital conditions in which it is found.
- Easy to forgive, excuse and take things with a sense of humor and discover something positive in the negative.
In this way, with the points indicated here, not only are you encouraged to seek your own realization and to look for an action-oriented philosophy, but also the paths to achieve it are shown.